CONFIDENCE: HOW BLOGGING IS SHAPING ME AS A PERSON

In the last 18 months I have been blogging regularly and during that time I have learned so much about myself. Writing this is in itself making me feel uncomfortable as I’m opening up a little more. But at the same time I feel happy that I’m continuing to break down those internal walls and share what’s really going on inside.

Blogging has been and still is such a joy for me but at the same time it’s been difficult facing myself as it’s brought up massive feelings of insecurity and a lack of self worth. What I have learned is that for a long time I wasn’t being my true self. I’m not at the end of the journey but as time passes I’m developing a better understanding of who I am and what I like and I’m feeling more confident with what I see.

That’s the thing about blogging, when you create content around your personal life you are forced to take a look at what it is you are putting out there as well as what you look like and sound like. This part I found particularly difficult and still do to a certain extent. Posting pictures of myself wearing outfits brought up so much pain as I often hated what I saw. I suppose for a long time I didn’t have a real understanding or acceptance of who I am and what I look like. So whilst I have experienced a lot of pain from blogging I had this unstoppable desire to keep going. This is how I am breaking down the barriers, opening up and feeling more comfortable in my own skin. For me blogging is a great course in understanding who I am, what I like and how I want to contribute to this world we live in. Blogging is helping me get past how I look which frustrates me because it involves so much vanity and inward thinking. That is not who I want to be and I’m starting to look outward more often which feels brilliant. In doing this I’ve discovered so many interests and when I create content for my blog my focus is on others and how I can share what I have learned to be of use or interest. So, I can say that blogging is having an amazing impact on my life and as time passes I will no doubt discover more things along the way.

31 Comments

      • July 30, 2017 / 12:45 pm

        Fun site, looking for the follow button. I did on BlogLovin.

  1. July 30, 2017 / 1:40 pm

    I can relate with this post. Blogging has brought so many different things to my life. Now I am not scared of sharing my opinion and random thoughts with others and I am much more confident with myself, even though I still struggle with that sometimes. Great post! x

    Zoel Hernández | zoelhernandez.com

  2. July 30, 2017 / 7:22 pm

    I am so happy to have come across this post. I had stopped blogging for quite some time. Mostly because I was in the midst of writing and then prepping to publish my books… yet, it’s no real excuse to have stopped blogging. I can only say, sometimes I felt as if I had nothing to say. Yesterday, July, 29, 2017, the words, the meat of my thoughts and feelings pushed through, and I had no choice but to start sharing again. Yes, it’s painful and strange. Putting myself out there like this, this, personal way; it’s frightening, but exhilarating! So thank you for sharing this! Happy blogging! 🙂

    • July 31, 2017 / 8:17 am

      Thank you for such an open and honest comment. It’s great that you had the inspiration to get back on the blogging bus – keep going : )
      Have a great week!

  3. July 30, 2017 / 8:01 pm

    Hi James, nice meeting you on the planet of blogging haha. Thank you for stopping at my blog and your presence is very much appreciated. Is very true what you wrote that one has to be careful to a certain extent of what we share on the blog. But on the whole blogging is a great experience to us all. I love blogging. Welcome to My Country Epoque! Hoping we will continue to communicate. Happy Sunday!

  4. July 31, 2017 / 5:48 am

    I agree with you there! I remember when I first started the blog. I was so unsure about what I wanted to write and what to write about but I think that I definitely grew, both in my writing style and in the topics that I chose to write about. That being said, I am now going through a writer’s block haha

    -Didier
    http://www.didieryhc.com

  5. July 31, 2017 / 1:03 pm

    First of all, thank you for liking my most recent blog post! It means much to me 🙂 This post is really inspiring. I just started my blog and I can identify with your feelings. I will keep an eye on your blog!

    • July 31, 2017 / 1:18 pm

      Hi Iris, my pleasure and thank you for your comment. I look forward to your future posts : )

  6. August 1, 2017 / 9:46 am

    Keep doing you James, your content is always so fresh and always such a joy to read!

  7. August 1, 2017 / 3:39 pm

    Hear, hear!

    Some days, I’m feeling validated because a bunch of people read what I had to say and some even “Liked” it.

    Other days, I feel like a self-absorbed teenager pouring forth my angst in bad poetry scrawled in multi-colored ink…

    Most days, I’m delighted to do the work of blogging. I love to write. I’m chock-full of opinions. I’m swapping comments with really fascinating people around the world. That’s awesome!

    Your photos are beautiful, and your prose is crisp. Trust in your skills, which I’d say, after a quick glance, are obvious. I hope the emotional journey proves equally satisfying.

  8. August 2, 2017 / 4:01 pm

    Hi James,
    I can relate so much haha. Blogging is so painful. That’s why I’ve been doing it on and off for almost three years now. However I discovered Eckhart Tolle’s “The Power Of Now” trough a friend and am so grateful for it. Maybe it will do you some good to read it. Keep on doing what you’re doing, because it’s damn fine as wine.
    With lots of love from Greece,
    Korni

    • August 2, 2017 / 4:42 pm

      Hey Korni, that’s so nice – thank you! And thanks for the book recommendation. I read ‘a new earth’ by Eckhart Tolle and found it life changing so you should also check it out and I will have to get ‘the power of now’. Stay in touch!
      James

  9. August 4, 2017 / 7:46 pm

    Loved reading this post! Keeping my eyes locked on your blog!

  10. Lifestyle Collective
    August 6, 2017 / 3:15 pm

    You write from the heart and your blog is lovely.

  11. August 9, 2017 / 5:49 am

    Hi James!

    It’s refreshing, your honesty about yourself and what blogging has meant for you. I do relate as many others would too I’m sure. I like the clothes you choose to wear, they look good on you. I lived in Stuttgart – that caught my attention and noticed you have the iPhone 7 and like it as do I – and then you went and liked my most recent post, “What’s For Breakfast?” at lotus4me.blog and well I just had to thank you for that; appreciated! I look forward to seeing your name pop-up again in the near future! Best of luck with all that you are doing James, I mean it!

  12. August 9, 2017 / 2:15 pm

    blogging so damn therapeutic for the mind and soul. And it forces us to be more honest with ourselves. !

  13. August 9, 2017 / 7:50 pm

    Love this! Not only because it’s real, but also because it resonates with me. Keep doing what you love!

  14. August 20, 2017 / 6:08 pm

    It’s really comforting to know that there are bloggers that feel the same way I do! I haven’t been blogging for long but from day one I was clear about my blog being for myself first and foremost- if anyone else enjoys it then it’s a bonus 😉 Appreciate your honesty! Look forward to reading more 🙂

  15. Lynne Le
    August 24, 2017 / 3:03 am

    At first, i also felt awkward to share my personal life on a blog but not it’s the most interesting part of my life <3

    xoxo,

  16. August 26, 2017 / 5:49 pm

    writing has done the same for me….keep it up!!!