My friend called on Friday as I was wracking my brains for something to blog about. I was completely stuck and trying to think of something was beginning to annoy me (totally blaming it on the recent new moon of Scorpio). Anyway, when I picked up I could tell my friend was not right and I quickly asked what was going on. To cut a long story short she was overwhelmed with everything going on in her life and didn’t know what to do. As we chatted on the phone I tried to offer some tips and advice to help her stay centered whilst everything else swirls around like a tornado. Most of us experience some level of stress on a regular (if not daily) basis and after I hung up from my friend I considered my increasing writers block and put it down to the juggling act of managing tasks. The increasing demands of daily life aren’t going anywhere so testing out techniques to navigate the daily grind became the inspiration for today’s post.
Take at least 5 minutes a day to center yourself. When I’m busy my mind is swirling and I’m usually drinking more coffee which isn’t always a good thing. Starting the day with a short meditation is honestly really good and I totally get that it can sound ridiculous to some but if you can get into it then it really helps. There are meditation apps such as headspace that guide you through a very short meditation that increases as you progress. In addition to this or on the days that I can’t face meditation I try to stay centered as I go about my daily tasks. All it takes is closing off the mind and going inwards as I’m doing anything from walking to cooking, food shopping or whatever. It might sound crazy but going inward and ploughing on chills me out without slowing me down.
Choosing downtime that is actually good for you. After a long week at work I used to hit up the bars and then a club every Saturday night which usually turned out to be so much fun. This can’t go on forever though, at least not every weekend. Having a think about the things you enjoy, that are also relaxing can actually make a difference when planning your free time. Choosing an afternoon of reading or a movie instead or heading into town or going to the gym might be a better choice come Monday morning. Last night Christian and I watched The Bodyguard (so good, highly recommend it) then got an early night and I woke up feeling a lot more rested than usual. It’s the simple things right?!
Prioritise tasks and learn to say no. There is a limit to how many things we can do in a day and sometimes we gotta accept that we can’t do everything. Making a mental note or better still writing a list (I must do this more often) gives us the power to decide what’s important and what’s not. For example, I have been trying to write this blog post since Thursday! I was stressing myself out to get it done and kept working at it because I was already late with my schedule. In the end I had to let it go and accept I needed to take it easy for a day and rest until my ideas came back. Yes, I’m late but so what, it’s not the end of the world.
Whatever is going on in life it’s possible to regain some balance by making small changes here and there. Taking a moment to center yourself and decide whether certain plans or tasks need to stay as they are can give you a chance to re plan the day and make it more manageable. Learning to say no to things, no matter how hard it might be, can give you back control of the day which should leave you feeling lighter.